Recent dates...

I have been on a few dates since I last posted, well just two dates. They both were from POF. Now this is not my favorite site for finding guys to go out with, but its free and I am tired of spending money on eharmony and match.com

P.S- I am thinking about renewing Match.com for one last Hoorah. I have to see if I can find a coupon online though.

I do not even remember the name of the first guy I went out with. So let's call him....Mr. Midlife-Crisis. I believe he was about 38 years old, very good looking and was well off financially. But he had recently got a divorce back in Oct 2011 and his ex wife just moved out a couple of months ago. So those were two red flags for me. He said they had a great relationship but she was not giving him the physical "affection" he needed and asked for a divorce, rather then cheating on her. Needless to say, he was quite new to the dating world. He was fresh out of the gate, and was excited about his new found freedom. I do not think he was really looking to get into a relationship. I really feel he was looking for something casual, but still wanted the physical aspect of it all. I could just see myself really liking him, then getting hurt. The actual dinner part of the date went really well. If it had just ended after that, I truly believe we could have made it to a second date. He wanted to go out for drinks afterwords. I should have said no, but I agreed. I was getting over being sick so I was starting to get tired and eventually ended up cranky. We found ourselves at a loud bar with a bunch of loud young adults. He was really enjoying being there (midlife crisis). I could see the shitty grin on his face, it was like he found his youth again. I however was not entertained and was tired of saying "WHAT!!??". I told him I better get going. I think he could see the annoyance on my face. We left the bar and said goodnight. We text a few times after and then we never heard from each other again. Oh well.

So that date was about three weeks ago. Last night I went out with a guy we shall call, Air Force. He is closer to my age, never married and has no kids. I had originally messaged him first on POF (which is a rare thing). His profile pictures made it seem like he had a fun, outgoing personality. I did not see much of that personality during dinner. The conversation was a bit strained and I found myself trying to think of things to talk about. Good thing I can pretty much hold a conversation with everyone. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt since it was our first date and I think he was nervous/shy. I may go out with him again next weekend. Maybe he will loosen up a bit. I think he has a good head on his shoulders. I can tell he has not been jaded nor has his mind been poisoned by past relationships or ex girlfriends.This could be a good or bad thing. Till next time.....

No No's for profiles...

COMING SOON

I have always been intrigued by the dating and relationship world. I feel like for so long I have wanted to be in a relationship that I have started to feel hopeless (not hopeless enough to give up). I look around my social network of friends who are married and or in loving relationships, and I look at myself and think, what the fuck is wrong with you Ash? I constantly ask myself if I am being too picky or not giving enough guys a chance? Then when I do give the iffy, red flag guys a chance, I always end up kicking myself in the ass. Should I seek therapy? Is there some underlying issues I have that prevents me from finding my prince charming? Maybe. I also find myself thinking about past relationships a lot, and wondering what went wrong? Mostly from the ones that ended and I never had closure. Women need closure..actually I think men do too. Maybe the unanswered ending to my past relationships have left me self concious about going into future ones. Who the hell really knows.

 

I have read so many "self help" books when it comes to relationships. Per request my mother bought me Patti Stanger's "Become your own Matchmaker" book for Christmas last year. I think I may actually start reading it. She seems to know what she is talking about lol. By the way I think she has a new season coming up soon! So excited!

Its been awhile...let's try this again.

I am a horrible blogger! I confess. I always think about writing all my dating stories or meetups down, but I get lazy and I don't. Honestly, I have not had a lot of time to even date until recently. So here I am, ready to share my stories with you.

I don't really have a rhyme or rythm to my dating madness. I use to pay for the dating websites, but I had no luck. So I have been sticking to good ol POF.COM. I was very hesitant about this site, since its free and all. But I have been lucky so far *knock on wood* that I havent met any psychos.

Happy New Years....

I hope everyone had a great New Years Eve. I tried to ring in 2012 awake, but I could not force my eyes open any longer.

One of my New Years resolutions (among many) is to keep up with this blog. Honestly, the only reason I quit writing, because I decided to not get involved in the Sugar World. It was not a good time for me. I had an infant who was still very young and woke up a few times at night. I just was not in the mood physically or mentally for it. My daughter is now 1 years old, my body is looking better and so is my mental state of mind.

I live in the "great" state of Texas. I hate the city I live in and miss the East Coast terribly. My goal is to end up in NYC or somewhere around there. The pickings for local pots are quite slim. There seem to be more in the neighboring cities such as Austin and Dallas. I am ready to be successful in the sugar bowl this time.

 I am talking to a few pots. I am not sure if any of them are worth mentioning at this time. I will tell you about the one in Dallas though.

Mr.Lawyer: I contacted Mr.Lawyer on SA.com. He lives in Dallas which is a little far from me. I happened to be up there last week and we met for lunch. I was not too hungry so we had a few drinks and appetizers. The conversation was good, but I could hardly hear him, he spoke quite low. So I just smiled and shook my head most of the time. We both decided we wanted to start an arrangement together. I was in town to see family so my time was limited. I told him we should pick a weekend to fly me back out to Dallas, hook up the hotel room and start our arrangement from there. The money conversation did not come up. I decided to hold off on that conversation when I have a ticket booked. We have kept in touch since then and he is letting me know what weekend works best for him. I guess we will see what happens.

Right now I am currently on SA and SD4M. I have to be aggressive on SA and send out a ton of emails a day. SD4M I seem to get a nice stream of emails per day. Although some of them I cant open because the guy is to cheap to pay for a membership. I am thinking about getting back on SD.COM I have had a little bit of luck on that site. I hate to pay for it though. I think their price went up too.

I do not have my daughter today so I am going to get off my ass and do a little shopping..

XOXO